In general, we tried to avoid a lot of wedding traditions: no veil, no bouquet / garter toss (or garter, for that matter), no best man or maid of honor, no incorporation of religion. We also decided to do almost all of our photos before the wedding and decided to do a first look prior to seeing our guests. There are several reasons why we decided to do a first look before our wedding.
6 Reasons Why We Decided To Do A First Look
1. We wanted to share a special moment between the two of us.
Call us selfish, but we wanted to have that special moment for ourselves. We knew that we wouldn’t get a ton of time together during the wedding, so we decided to share this special moment between ourselves (and photographer, of course).
I was nervous that the moment would be lost if we went the traditional route, since I get extremely nervous in front of groups of people (see below). To really share and feel each other’s reaction was really beautiful. And I’m so happy that we did that. It was one of my favorite parts of the day.
2. We wanted to calm our nerves.
I get nervous in front of people. Very nervous. For example, in high school I participated in theatre as a stage manager, never on stage. I get anxious and nervous and feel like my stomach is going to fall out of my butt. So having a chance to get a lot of emotions out prior to standing in front of our loved ones was really, really nice.
I’ve been neglecting this blog and social media lately because I spent the last 9 or 10 days being sick. Like pray-to-a-god-I-don’t-believe-in kind of sick. I spent the earlier part of last week being convinced that I had contracted malaria from my recent trip to Cameroon (I don’t) while hoping that it was just a tiny, short-lived illness that would pass in a few days (it didn’t). The upside to being sick, however, is that it allowed me to take a couple of sick days during which I had the house to myself, and I was able to engage in some of my secret single behaviors. You know, the things I like to do when I have the house to myself. Here are some of my favorite secret single behaviors:
Secret Single Behaviors
All the beauty maintenance activities: baths, eyebrows, whiten teeth, examining all the pores, mud masks, paint nails, etc.
Practice ballet and jazz: I love to dance across the hardwood in the living doing floor combinations. The living room isn’t very big so I have to keep my moves pretty tight. This activity doesn’t last long when I’m sick.
Watch all of Bravo’s finest: Real Housewives of BH, OC, and NJ paired with a little Pump Rules = A+
And then watch an episode of Buffy. OR read one of my Buffy Season 8 or 9. Because yes, they exist and they are awesome.
Snack like a beast: All the yummies will be mine, completely guilt free. I’m talking Mac & Cheese, cookie dough, and wasabi peas. Not all at once, I promise.
If I don’t leave the house, I don’t leave my pajamas. Obviously.
Listen to Blow by Kesha on repeat. Best pump up song.
Be terrified that someone is trying to break into the house: To be fair, I experience this every day.
Speak my thoughts. To myself. Similar to talking to myself but less creepy … right?
Snuggle with a pillow when napping. We all do it, right?
Cry. Mostly over really touching episodes of Law & Order: SVU, Criminal Minds, etc.
Lose track of time in the black hole that is Pinterest. Followed by instagram. And then get angry when people aren’t updating fast enough to keep up with my media consumption.
Saturday Matt and I had our engagement party! We decided to have a low-key, afternoon hangout in our backyard since 1) we have a ton of space, and 2) the weather was amazing! We were lucky to have about 45 of our wonderful friends and family join us for delicious foodies, yummy drinks and a few rounds of corn hole.
Matt had asked for miniature giraffes on the party invitation. And two of our friends made an incredible watermelon cake with a girl and boy miniature giraffe toppers! Beyond amazing.
We are so lucky to have such amazing friends and family. Thanks to Shelly, Monique and Dave for helping us set up in the morning! And to Cristina and Sam for making that AMAZING watermelon cake, sangria, and chocolate covered strawberries! We love you all!
Oh and during the party Matt got his hands on my phone and changed my Facebook status to this:
What a keeper, huh ;)